Valentine’s Day (V-day) is a day in which lovers will express their love for one another by giving each other flowers, chocolates, cards etc.
For the older generations, some of them will have this negative perception that V-day is a day where people will lose their virginity under the influence of alcohol and some is due to the atmosphere. The atmosphere may be too comfortable for them to think or act. Therefore, often they will act on impulse.
As for the younger generations, their perception will be quite different as they will treat this day as a very important day where they will need to spend it with their partners. No matter how busy they are on this day, they will still put aside some time to accompany their loved ones. They may be just go for a movie or a meal, but to them this is definitely sufficient.
Today, people often have expectations. In my perspective, most of the girls will expect very simple things like a stalk of rose, a dinner together or just spending some quality time together by doing something that both of them will enjoy. On the other hand, from what I had gathered from my male friends, they find that spending quality time together is the most important thing while the others are just superficial.
Thus, this creates a conflict in both girl’s and guy’s mindset. As girl will think that roses, a meal and spending time together are equally important, but guy will not agree to it as they will think that only spending quality time together is important. The next stage that will happen in the relationship will be miscommunication.
When miscommunication happens and no one is taking the initiative to find out what is the problem in the relationship and what solution can be done to salvage which both parties can come to a consensus with, the girl and guy will slowly drift apart. When they start to drift apart, this is the time where the break up stage in a relationship will start to form. By this time if there is still no salvage done, this relationship will confirm come to an end. The parties in this relationship will move on with each of their own life, without any interference with one another.
Words and picture by: Zhi Ning.
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karen Said:
on February 15, 2009 at 2:30 am
! didnt know that the old generations think that way of vday.
i guess for our generation, most think of vday to express their love for their partners. and you cant deny that girls are usually the ones who emphasis the importance of vday.
sometimes. what seems simple for a girl may not be, for a guy. strange huh.
but to think that if a couple breaks up because of such matters, its kinda stupid. theres much more to consider in a serious relationship.
Hui Yong Said:
on February 15, 2009 at 4:28 pm
I guess in a relationship what matters most is communication. you need to communicate well with your partner so as to avoid misunderstanding and unnecessary conflicts.
To me, Valentine Day is a day for the exchange of tokens of affection. It can be of friendship love, family love and couple love. Treasure your loved ones before losing them. Knapp model of Relational Development is a good guide for people who are inexperienced. For more info, check out my blog 🙂
com101b Said:
on February 15, 2009 at 6:23 pm
Yup in reply to Karen, I do think that it is stupid for couple to break up because of small things and this makes them look stupid and immature.
As for Hui Yong, I do agree that communication is important in a relationship and with good communication, the relationship can last longer. =)
moonprincess87 Said:
on February 17, 2009 at 11:23 pm
I feel the most important thing in any relatioship is communication. I would rather spend more time in communicating with my partner than him giving me things.
Having sufficient communication with my partner allows me to better understand him and thus, it can result in lesser miscommunication and lesser conflicts.
nhavxor Said:
on March 7, 2009 at 10:53 am
As with saying “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”, men and woman are not and will never have the same purpose. By nature, both genders are created differently and the different in perspective stems from the underlying factor of hormones and genes.
Indeed, the Mass Media in this case is the root cause of these difference and often unrealistic expectations. Having the understanding that media by default is profit-motivated, the ideas proliferated are more often than not equating the depth of love in this case to the amount that is spent during the big V day itself. Self-depreciating it may sound, but doubtfully truth it sadly is.
That being said, Mass Media can only do so much to influence. Ultimately, it will be the onus of the end-user to decide whether to adopt the skewed perspective of love. We may not be able to revert to the simple love our older generation hold dearly to, however we can still take the moment and time out of our hectic life to appreciate your precious partner.
com101b Said:
on March 7, 2009 at 12:10 pm
Reply to moonprincess87:
I do agree with you that having good communication with your partner is important as this will really allow the relationship to be much more smooth sailing and the chances of having conflicts will be minimized.
Reply to nhavxor:
Well media does play a part in influence one’s perspective in things but it is really depending on oneself if they want to reject/accept the message that is brought to them by the media iself…Isn’t it? =)
Wee Chong Said:
on March 21, 2009 at 9:28 am
What i think is most important in a relationship is really communication, and also when a couple should take a step back and see whether that both parties should really come to an extend where they will have to quarrel.
Gabriel Said:
on March 21, 2009 at 12:57 pm
I think communication is impt no matter what is is regarding as it is the base of all conflicts as well as solutions,simple as that
yy Said:
on March 21, 2009 at 5:36 pm
relationship when met with conflicts can also results in the couple understanding each other even more. when they quarrel, all the unhappiness, all the conflicts will be brought out. although words may be harsh and saddening in the exchange of arguments, if both parties love each other / doesnt want to lose each other, they will remember what their significant half had said to them and try to change/ give in slowly as time goes on. however it is to be noted tat it takes 2 hands to clap.. soo both parties have to put in the effort.
From other point of view, love can be warm and sweet. We tend to remember the sad times more than the happy times. From time to time even at bad times, we can rekindle the happy memories spent together and things will be better.
And theres also this phrase ” absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
Maybe after the seperation, both parties realise they still misses each other. The world is full of poosiblilites
com101b Said:
on March 21, 2009 at 8:42 pm
Reply to Wee Chong & Gabriel,
I agree with both of you that communication is very important in a relationship, be it relationship with your family members or your special one, it is still important as it ensure the relationship move on smoothly with much conflict as you are able to understand one another better. =)
Reply to yy,
I like this phrase that you had quoted ” absence makes the heart grow fonder.” I find that for a lot of couple around me, this quote seems so true as the lesser they get to meet other, the closer they are as they tend to miss one another when they are not able to see each other so often, maybe due to busy schedule or etc =)